This powerful book reveals self-limiting beliefs that rob us of joy, and can create needless suffering.
Don Miguel Ruiz is a renowned spiritual teacher who has given us these life changing tools WHEN you are ready to make a change within yourself. He shares with us, four deceptively simple, yet powerful agreements that we can adopt as our guiding principles.
“The Four Agreements® offers a powerful code of conduct that can rapidly transform our lives to a new experience of freedom, true happiness, and love -Don Miguel Ruiz
I have summarized each agreement, however I highly recommend having this book in your presence! You will want to pick it up from time to time, to brush up and remind yourself how simple and stress-free life can be. The world will continue spinning around you, and old habits will make their way back to the surface. Just know that you can find your way back to your best self with these four amazing agreements.
THE FIRST AGREEMENT:
BE IMPECCABLE WITH YOUR WORD
This agreement is the most important, yet one of the most difficult to instill in our everyday lives. Our “words” are very powerful. What you think, dream, feel and are, will be manifested through the “word.'
One simple word has the power to change a life. It can destroy someone's heart, inject fear, it can be the reason someone cries or laughs. Your word can fill someone's heart with happiness and love. Build self-esteem or make someone feel worthless.
Children look to their parents for comforting and loving words. Know that as a mother or father you can crush a dream, and their self-worth or you can provide them with courage and acceptance. It's all in the “word.”
It can be difficult at times to honor this agreement with yourself. Things happen around us, people who do not belong in our lives may show up, you are mad at the boss, your spouse or a friend. Taking on these 4 agreements is a peaceful and loving way for you to be a better person.
If we start each day being aware of our word and how we are speaking to others, it can change our lives to have no have regrets, and to prove nothing. It's a journey to personal freedom.
As Don Miguel Ruiz said, “Being impeccable with your word you can live in heaven in the middle of thousands of people living in hell because you are immune to that hell.”
Use your word to share love for yourself and others.
THE SECOND AGREEMENT:
DON'T TAKE ANYTHING PERSONALLY
This is a difficult one. Most of us have had this feeling since we were very young. Being overly concerned about what others think, or on the flip side, accepting compliments as if they are about you.
Nothing other people say or do is because of you. It is because of themselves. When we take something personally, we are making an assumption that they know what they are talking about. We are giving them too much power.
This is a time to look at the person and realize that they are not being impeccable with their word. How difficult must it be for them to live in such turmoil and fear? What they say and do is about their own personal war within themselves.
If you take everything personal, then you think you are responsible for everything. You have to stop believing that everything is about you! Right?
Everyone loves compliments! But if we are not going to take everything personally then this is not the exception. Honoring this second agreement, means if someone tells you that you are wonderful it really isn't about you. It's about them. You already know you are wonderful!
If you are living with peace and happiness, and you are impeccable with your word, then what other people say and do will not be a part the agreements you made with yourself.
THE THIRD AGREEMENT:
DON'T MAKE ASSUMPTIONS
To err is human, and being human is to make assumptions. Not healthy for the soul, might I add! The problem with making an assumptions is that we believe that it is true. This creates drama that we certainly don't need in our lives.e voice of knowledge is really made up of assumptions. We put so much pressure on ourselves and on others when we assume. We create an entire lifetime of “what ifs,” and “whys” because we believe our internal voice.
Think of all the things you assume, and all the times you've been disappointed because it didn't play out how you imagined. In our relationships, our families, our jobs, so many parts of our lives are based on assumption. You think others should know how you feel or what you’re thinking, right? Oh we get it honestly! So no need to put this all on ourselves! It's life and it's drama.
Try to start each day noticing everything that you are assuming. Keep a check on what you are assuming from others. Notice if you assume the traffic will be bad, or that your partner will forget your birthday, or maybe you spend time worrying over things you are assuming will happen.
Being in control of silencing your mind and eliminating the need to assume and /or predict what others are thinking or doing will result in a drama-free, loving and happy life.
THE FOURTH AGREEMENT:
ALWAYS DO YOUR BEST
Always Doing Your Best — is the one that allows the other three agreements to become deeply rooted habits.
“Under any circumstance, always do your best, no more and no less. But keep in mind that your best is never going to be the same from one moment to the next. Everything is alive and changing all the time, so your best will sometimes be high quality, and other times it will not be as good. When you wake up refreshed and energized in the morning, your best will be better than when you are tired at night. Your best will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick; it will depend on whether you are feeling wonderful and happy, or angry and upset.” – Don Miguel Ruiz
As I mentioned before, life will continue to happen around us. Situations will change from one moment to another, from one hour to the next, from one day to the next. It will be challenging at times and you may get caught up in conversations or situations that will test you. Just remember to keep doing your best, and remember the other 3 agreements. There will not be any room to judge yourself. And if you don’t judge yourself there is no way you are going to suffer from guilt, blame, and self-punishment.
With our earth waking up, our souls trying to figure out why we are here, and trying to make sense of the the hatred killings and weather devastation, THIS is what we can do for ourselves, the people around us, and for the Universe. Positive and loving energy will help to heal our space and our earth.
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